The idea of a self-differentiated leader may or may not be familiar. Edwin Friedman is one of several authors who has identified a number of concepts associated with a self-differentiated leader.
Three ideas represent a foundation for our consideration.
They know who they are: There is clarity about their life goals and possess a great self-awareness.
They are part of the system, but not controlled by it: They can be separate while remaining connected, manage their own reactivity to others, and are less likely to become lost in the anxious emotional processes around them.
They are able to take stands at the risk of displeasing others: As a steward who balances presence and technique, they have the ability to deal with the super responsible and vulnerable.
Spiritual leaders certainly face situations where the maturity of leadership is needed. The process of developing into a self-differentiated leader is a journey to that maturity.
Within the church, a move to equipping leaders under this umbrella will provide a greater maturity in leadership for the future.