Generally speaking, leadership involves changing others. From a spiritual perspective, the purpose of our leadership is to change others, right?
However, change must first begin within ourselves. It is easy to ask others to do what we are either unwilling to do or have not done yet.
The power of change starts with us. When we make changes in our own lives first, we set an example for others to see why they must change also.
As leaders in our homes, communities, and the church, let us first work on changing ourselves and then seek opportunity to help others change.
Wandering in desert places does not appeal to most. Yet, many leaders wander because lack the vision to lead people in the direction they ought to go, and this is their role.
Rosalynn Carter said, “A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be.”
We need great leaders in the home, our world, and the church. Too many only take people where they want to go. Let us arise to the challenge and become the great leaders God requires in every area of life.
Direction takes many different forms. Leaders must give and receive direction.
We receive direction from the One true spiritual leader, Christ.
In turn, our vision must be used to provide direction for others.
Spiritual leaders provide spiritual direction. We help others get on course and encourage them to stay on course.
Parents lead in the home.
Congregational leaders lead congregations.
All of us as Christians must lead the lost.
When we provide direction we assist others in reaching the destination our leadership strives to reach…heaven.
A recent post of Facebook deserves attention today. Dean Meadows posted, “How a man treats his wife says much about how he views God.”
What a powerful thought to consider regarding the leadership needed within the home. Think about it men. As the leader in our home, we have a responsibility to fulfill the God-given role of leading.
Dean’s post is right. How we treat the wife God has given, speaks to the way we view Him.
How are we leading in our home?
We tend to view leadership from a corporate perspective. As a result, leadership in the home and church receives little, if any, attention.
Yet, how we lead in the home has an incredible impact, especially when we know that how we lead in the home has lasting effects on the future homes of our children. How are we modeling this role?
The present day church suffers from the lack of preparing leadership in the past. How we proceed will determine the strength of the church for our children. When and how will we prepare the next generation?
Instead of an inward focus (the business model of leadership), perhaps we need to think more about the future of the home and church. If we do, the other takes care of itself.
Our lives fall into three major categories: home, world, and church. Amazingly, when we are out of balance in one, the other two are affected.
Leaders have a tremendous responsibility to cautiously approach the work consumption syndrome and not lose sight of the focus needed in the church and home. When we are imbalanced, everything suffers, even our work.
Ultimately, when the spiritual element of our life is not prioritized, nothing else works.
Our task begins with establishing the right priorities and lead from that position.
I’ve learned over the years that criticizing others for how they approach the development of their home does not usually yield positive results.
Everyone seems to have their “own” way of doing things. Sadly, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Perhaps the biggest challenge exists when we do not recognize it is not working until it is too late.
Remember, children learn by observation, probably better than we do as adults. When children witness parents criticizing each other, other people, or the child, then they grow up believing that the standard for how to live in the home is critical in nature.
The result often leaves an atmosphere of competition, always striving to be better than someone else in order to avoid being criticized.
In order to prevent this from developing in our homes, we need to stop and think about what we say before we say it. We may need to apologize to our children for how we have criticized them or others in the past. Above all, we must strive to set a more positive tone for the future.
“Do as I say, not as I do.” Jesus rebuked the Pharisees for their hypocrisy of saying things and not doing them.
One of the greatest forms of hypocrisy in the home exists when parents tell their children to live a certain way, yet not live by the same standard themselves.
We are not saying that parents need to be perfect, regardless of the standard under consideration. However, there needs to be consistency.
Children already push the limits as close to the line as possible and measure every action by the consistency of parental guidance.
As challenging as parenting is for anyone, the best place to lead our children in establishing a standard to guide their lives throughout life is found in the home. Here is where the foundation must be laid.
We must develop a consistency in approaching the way the standard is lived in the home.
When we fail to live up to the standard: admit it, apologize, and make restitution. Do not excuse it…ever!
Seek ways to help our children understand the purpose behind the standard.
“What parents excuse in moderation, children will abuse in excess” (Brett Petrillo). The home is the place where leadership begins.
The hearts and minds of our children are sculpted from a very young age. Our influence is far greater than we can imagine, perhaps until we see and hear the expressions of our influence expressed in the lives of our children.
Because this is true, as parents we need to give serious consideration to the words and activities expressed in our own lives.
This post is not for the purpose of proclaiming what is right or wrong. Rather, the purpose is to share a perspective of an individual who has seen it in his own children and now observing it through them in his grandchildren.
We need to set the kind of standard within our home we are comfortable with seeing our children live out in excess. We face enough challenges in battling the worldly influence surrounding us. Why take a chance on setting an example that questions the biblical precedence of a godly man or woman?
Use the home as a refuge that is sanctified by the teachings of God’s word.
The greatest opportunities for influence occur within the confines of the four walls where we live.
What we need to consider, however, involves several areas of critical significance.
I am sure we all pray for our children every day. As I thought about the idea of leadership in the home and the influence we have on our children, it seemed fitting to share a few thoughts.
From the time children arise in the morning to the time they lay their heads down to sleep, teaching moments are everywhere.
The air that we breathe, the food we eat, the opportunity to see the sunrise, the ability to move our fingers and toes, witnessing God’s creation come to life, and hundreds more, are all moments to teach our children about the existence of God and His love for us.
Leadership in the home must lay this foundation, but it certainly includes more than teaching them about God, as we will consider in the days ahead, but these moments furnish a powerful place to start.
As we pray for children, let us also take appropriate action to lead them.